Etiquette for your Wedding 

QUESTION: What is a “Save the Date” card and do I need to send one to my guests?

A save the date card is a note sent to your guest asking them to save the date for your wedding. These can be sent up to a year or more ahead of time or as soon as you know the date of your wedding. You should state on the card that an invitation will follow. They do not need to be just a card. Save the date cards are very creative these days. A custom candy bar is perfect to make the announcement. If sending it in the mail it should only be done in the winter. In the summer months,  other items would be a better choice such as lifesavers, tic tac, drink pouches.

Save the date cards are not necessary but just a good idea to make sure that in these busy times people will know ahead of time when the date will be. The only real rule to a save the date card is that if you send someone a save the date card you must send them an invitation to your wedding.

Traditionally it was the bride’s parents who hosted the party, but recently this has opened up to just about anyone.

QUESTION: Should I purchase a gift for my bridal party?

Yes, it is customary to purchase a gift for your bridal party. A nice piece of jewelry or a nice pen and pencil set make a nice gift.

QUESTION: What should the bridesmaids be expected to pay for?

The bridesmaids are usually responsible for their shoes, dress, and transportation to and from the wedding, and a portion of the bridal shower.

QUESTION: Should I mention we would like cash instead of gifts or where we are registered on our invitation?

No, it is considered bad taste to list where you are registered or that you would like to receive cash on your invitations. The only way that this should be done is by word of mouth.  You should also reframe from listing this info on your website. There is just no way of doing this tactfully no matter how it is worded.

QUESTION: If my co-workers give me a shower, do I have to invite them all to the wedding and reception? I need to keep my guest list to a minimum.

No, you are not required to invite them since this is a work shower, but if you are inviting some of them but not all of them, keep it discreet and keep information about your wedding discreet and make sure to send them the invitation to their homes and not hand them out at work.